End-of-life support
Company, conversation, and steadiness when someone you love is close to the end.
When someone is dying, the room fills with medicine: schedules, symptoms, decisions, visits from the hospice team. That care matters. But there’s a lot it can’t reach. The fear. The unsaid things. The family that doesn’t know how to be in the room. The question of what all of this has meant.
That’s where an end-of-life doula comes in. I offer non-medical support, presence, conversation, and practical help, for the person who is dying and for the people who love them. I work alongside hospice and medical care, never in place of it.
How the work unfolds
My training through INELDA follows the arc of dying in three parts. Every situation is different, and we move at the pace of the person at the center.
Before: meaning and legacy
Time to talk about a life. What mattered, what’s unfinished, what you want the people you love to know.
Some people make a legacy project: letters, recorded stories, a book of family recipes, a message for a grandchild’s wedding day. Some want help with a conversation they’ve been avoiding for years, with a child, a sibling, or an old friend.
During: the final days
Together we plan how the last days should feel. Who’s present. What’s playing. What’s read aloud. Whether the window is open.
When the time comes, I can sit vigil, so family members can rest, eat, and step outside knowing someone is there. I can also help the family recognize the ordinary signs that death is near, so the unfamiliar is less frightening. For anything medical, the hospice team leads.
After: the first weeks
The time right after a death is disorienting. I help families through the first practical steps. Later, we sit down together and go back over what happened: the hard moments and the beautiful ones. It’s a chance to set the story down together before grief carries everyone off in different directions.
The conversations that matter
Some of the most important work happens between the people who aren’t dying. The partner who can’t say the word out loud yet. The siblings who haven’t spoken since the last funeral. The parent who needs to hear “I forgive you,” or needs to say it.
I can help those conversations happen. Sometimes that means sitting in the room while they do. Sometimes it means helping someone find the words first. Not every relationship can be repaired in the time that’s left. Often it’s enough that the words get said, so nobody walks away carrying something they could have set down.
Faith and meaning
I don’t bring a religion into the room. If you have one, I’ll work inside it, and alongside your priest, rabbi, imam, or teacher. If you don’t, nothing here asks you to find one.
People meet death in many ways: with prayer, with humor, with silence, with questions that never get answered. My job is to meet you where you are.
About my experience
I’m INELDA-trained, and I’m early in this work. Alongside the training, I bring my background as a coach and facilitator: helping people have the conversations they’ve been avoiding. If your situation needs more end-of-life experience than I have, I’ll tell you, and help you find someone who has it.
Where and how much
In person in Los Angeles, with travel by arrangement. Remote for the conversations that work that way.
$150 an hour for short engagements. Ongoing accompaniment from $3,000, scoped together before anything starts.
If someone you love is dying, you don’t need to have it figured out before you reach out. Tell me what’s happening, and we’ll work out together what would help.